Why are gay people so annoying

I think a lot of former allies are really coming around to this view. The documentary The Gift -- about bugchasing from a pro-homosexual viewpoint -- has unintentionally contributed a lot to people waking up. I hate gay people, and I think other people should hate gay people too. Archived post. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be.

It is also significant to note that while some people with internalized homophobia are “out of the closet” and openly dealing their own sexual orientation/sexual identity issues, many others. Researchers are finding that racism, competition, and a fixation on sex within the gay and bi community are driving anxiety and depression. I made a meme about how annoying "masc" gay parties are. But the response it got said more about the gay community than my joke ever could.

Time and time again we hear gay men described using these adjectives, but this narrow, outdated stereotype is inaccurate - and it’s ruining lives. I moved to a big city in , where my best gay pal has lived for years. Thing is, he can be a very negative person. Some of this negativity includes:. Obviously, it can be really offensive and even embarrassing. In the examples you gave, he comes off as controlling, ableist, and judgmental.

That goes beyond negativity! Those are some serious red flags in friendship.

His framing of this as a gays vs. I have had plenty of fulfilling close friendships with gay men throughout my life. I have also had some falling outs with gay men when their misogyny and weird opinions on lesbians began to come to the surface. It happens. To me, the best cattiness is rooted in genuine humor.

Of course, I only have the limited scope your letter offers, but especially because of his weak defense of these moments, I feel like it may be time to shift your expectations of this person. Is there a world in which you could maintain him as an emergency contact but still set some new boundaries and expectations? Only you can decide if this friendship currently takes from you more than it gives, a question which might take some time to sit with.

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There are no easy answers here. How has that felt? Maybe listen to that. You can chime in with your advice in the comments and submit your own questions any time. Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, fiction, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A. Club , Vulture, The Cut, and others. When she is not writing, editing, or reading, she is probably playing tennis.

You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website. He loudly complains about disabled people in public space? Yeah, I would never be friends with this person again. We are human and we deserve to be in public as much as anybody. I appreciate a catty gay man with a good sense of humor as much as the next drag race fan, but I agree with what Kayla said here.

This man does not even sound funny. He just sounds like an asshole. You've decided to leave a comment. That's fantastic. Please keep in mind that comments are moderated by the guidelines laid out in our comment policy.